(Warning long post)
The first part to get through is the shopping. Not many children like shopping to be fair, but at this time of the year, Santa is your bargaining tool. With a child on the spectrum, it is more difficult, for me, I have to give my daughter three days notice before we do anything like leaving the house. We also have to prepare, which means looking for ear defenders as not only are the shops more crowded, the noise level of Christmas hits blasting out can cause real anxiety. On top of that the fear of Covid only adds another level to an already anxious mind.
I had shared a post on this page last week and it seemed to resonate with a lot of you regarding presents for your children and how this would be dictated by what your child likes and not by age or gender. I totally agree, there is no point in getting them presents that you know they will not play with, wear or use. When my daughter was younger and asked what she would like for Christmas her answer would be nothing. She did once ask for a set of books I think there was twenty one in the series. However they were for a much younger child than herself but I got them. Everything else she opened, she just looked at, stated she hadn’t asked for it and tossed it aside. I did once buy her a doll that was very realistic in that, after you fed it, you had to change a nappy. She wasn’t much interested in it however, once it started to cry she threw it on the floor and never touched it again. She is twenty one now and would probably do the same.
It is very difficult for friends and relatives to know what to buy for your child on the spectrum as because of sensory issues around clothing it can be a problem. I do have a niece who does totally get my daughter, she will sometimes buy her clothes but always gives Kirsty the receipt and tells her if she doesn’t like it she will not be offended if she changes it. Not all relatives are so understanding. I have had to warn everybody not to be disappointed when Kirsty opens their present as there is usually no reaction, she is not ungrateful just doesn’t know what to say. She now reads books that are more age appropriate, for teens. It is a continual learning curve for us as parents.My child only ever wants to spend time with me if we are doing or watching something that she has chosen. As I don’t play Minecraft or any other X box games, we watch something that she likes. I don’t know if any of you are familiar with a series called PrimeEvil. Kirsty thought we could watch that together as she had the whole FIVE SERIES. I try to get it down to two episodes at a time as we once sat through four and I was falling asleep. The curtains have to be drawn and we must have popcorn and chocolate.
I could talk about Kirsty all day and how she enriches us in so many ways. She has achieved things I was told she never would. She is certainly not your typical 21 year old but she is growing up.
I would just urge you to think about what makes them anxious, they will not always or sometimes they can’t tell you.
We have some products which are handy for stocking fillers and some things your child might enjoy.
Tieless shoelaces, great for all those who find tying laces difficult. They turn your shoes into slip ons. Seamless socks, if you have a child that is difficult to dress, this could be one of the reasons. Children with autism grow up to become adults with autism, so our clothing goes up to age 17/18 which would also fit men as would our size 15/16. Why not choose a seasonal t-shirt or a sarcastic phrase they use or you think suits them. We have a large selection of books some to read with your children, to talk to them about their diagnosis and others for siblings as well as some for parents to read just to let you know you are not alone. Our cuddly Worry Monsters which give you a chance to ask your child about what is worrying them, pop it in the Worry Monsters mouth and it takes it away.
We have 15% of every item in store until Boxing Day